Thursday, January 24, 2008

Maybe I need a parenting class......

Today I am feeling like a terrible parent. Last night Miss L was with me scrapbooking in the basement when she told me that she wanted me to eat a picnic upstairs with her..."and unplug the phone".

"Unplug the phone...?"

Why?

"Because you are always on the phone."

"I am?"

"Yes, and I miss you."

This hit me like a sucker punch to the stomach.

I never realized that she felt deprived. In fact, I never realized that so many people called as such in-opportune times.... or that I was even on the phone THAT much.

However, I guess she is right and I need to, at the very least, not answer the phone during these times.

I assured her that she and her brother were the most important people in my life. That if I was neglecting her, I most definitely didn't mean to.

The worst part is that I thought I was doing a decent job. I try to play some every day. Whether it be tractors in the floor, play-doh, baking cookies, etc... But what I think is unimportant. Our children are the best gauge of our effectiveness. Apparently I am not being very effective.

Live and Learn.

4 comments:

jen said...

or you are just busy, and trying to do many things at once, and that is okay, sister.

and how lucky we are to have them around to teach us.

Augs Casa said...

I fall into this post category. I try hard to make time for my boys, but mostly since I am on-call most nights and issues arise at work, my boys always want me on the floor with them playing cars or trucks. 1/2 the time I tell them I can't right now.I really try to make it up to them over the weekends.Don't feel bad sometimes the blinders are on and you are concentration on other things.

The Sour Kraut said...

I think you're being too hard on yourself. If children had their way, they'd have us playing with them every waking minute. It's important to keep things balanced and by hearing you say you play with her everyday, I would say you're doing an excellent job.

You must get over your Catholic guilt. : )

Anonymous said...

Oh...the Catholic Guilt. Someone should write a book about it.